A little shame is okay, but some things should never be embarrassing. In any case, self-confident people would never be ashamed of these ten things.
Hasn't most of us blushed at some point? And didn't that make the situation even more embarrassing...?
Nothing against feelings of shame per se! At least they prevent us from farting on each other (although the quiet ones are usually the worst...). But we can also overdo it with shame - and that's usually a sign of insecurity and a lack of self-esteem. Here are ten things no one should be ashamed of.
It is how it is. Some have a hooked nose, others are only 1.50 meters tall, and still others look like a doll. Our body says nothing about our value as a human being. Of course we can be proud and happy if we like it. But we should never be ashamed of our appearance.
2. A mood
Everyone has a bad day (or a bad year) every now and then. And being in a bad mood doesn't even need a specific reason. If scientists can't explain why we tick the way we tick, why should we always understand or control our moods?
3. A question
Well-worn phrase, but a truth that doesn't seem to have reached everyone: There are no superfluous questions! If you don't know or don't understand something, there are usually other people who feel the same way and they probably just don't have the courage to ask. Also, we all have the right to ask for at least the information we think we need. In the worst case, we appear very interested – or sympathetically confused.
Well, feelings happen as we live and are flooded with impressions, and they are as individual as our fingerprints. Our feelings make us the lovely people we are. And even if they are sometimes exhausting for those around us (and for us too, of course), there is never any reason for us to be ashamed of them. Every feeling has a purpose - and if it's a feeling of shame that shows us that we need more self-confidence...
5. A mistake
Even machines whose sole value is in functioning send out blunt error messages. Should we, as people, who are primarily in the world to try things out and learn anyway, be ashamed of our mistakes? Nope, mistakes are human, but certainly not embarrassing.
Just like our feelings, our dreams help us to find our own way in life - whether it is our unconscious dreams that we only half remember tomorrow or our hopes and fantasies about the future.
Only those who dare can fail, so every failure is a reason to be proud of us - because it primarily shows courage.
Imagine the perfect person for a moment – do you find them attractive and lovable? So what! Without our weaknesses, we would not only be boring, but also unsympathetic. Being strong isn't everything, and being weak is everything but embarrassing!
9. The account balance
Yes, money rules the world, but that doesn't mean that the number one goal in life is to accumulate as much money as possible. What we have in the bank and whether we can afford a car or a bicycle says nothing about what we are worth as human beings - even if the rich and powerful like to portray it that way (and it, since they do so much have power, unfortunately also manage quite well...)
As children, we are all naive because we have never been disappointed. But the older we get and the more negative experiences we have, the more detached and skeptical we become. While that's okay and a sensible form of self-protection, if we do manage to retain a modicum of childish naivety, it's more of a reason to be more proud of ourselves than to be ashamed. Because trust and believing in the good always requires courage and self-confidence.
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